Top Myths About Bisexual Men

Homosexuals and heterosexuals alike often misunderstand the nature of bisexuality. The thought of a person that is attracted to both men and women can be confusing and frequently leads to misconceptions and stereotypes. Below are the top 5 myths about bi men.

Bisexuality Is Only a Phase

For years the gay community has challenged heterosexuals who publicly state that homosexuality is only a phase. Bisexuals face the same generalization from both the gay and straight community. Many bisexuals are completely in touch with their emotions and desires for members of both sexes and often feel limited by the thought of attraction to only a man or woman. Emotional connections often take precedence when bisexuals pursue a potential partner. Bisexuality is just as much of a natural preference as homosexuality and heterosexuality.


Bi Men Have to Choose To Be Either Gay or Straight

Bisexuals are attracted to both men and women on both an emotional and physical level. Some "lean straight" (meaning they prefer a member of the opposite sex, but same sex partners are always an option) and others "lean gay" (which means they prefer members of the same sex, but would consider a relationship with a member of the opposite sex). Nonetheless, they are not simply gay or straight and definitely do not have to choose.


Bisexual Men are Sexually Confused

A common misconception in both the gay and heterosexual communities is that bisexuals are sexually confused and cannot make up their minds which sex they like. However, that's the whole point- bisexuals are attracted to both sexes and are in many cases more clear about their sexuality than most others.


Bisexual Men Will Never Marry

Alongside the thought that bisexual men and women are sexually confused is the myth that they will never be able to settle on a partner of any sex. In many cases bisexuals put a lot of emphasis on emotional connections with either sex. This in mind, the opportunity for them to find a life partner is just as viable as it is for a heterosexual or homosexual. However, since same-sex marriage isn't legal in most places of the world, only a heterosexual marriage in most places will be recognized by law.


Bi Men are Sexually Promiscuous

Bisexuals are no more promiscuous than any others. Promiscuity (or frequent sex with multiple partners) depends on the individual irrespective of their sexual preference. However, liking both sexes increases a bisexual's chances of a sexual encounter or potential relationship (by shear numbers alone).


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A Letter To A Gay Friend

Dearest Alvin,

I was at the height of a confrontation with my dad when Natty called up and informed me that you were slashing your wrist after you found out that your boyfriend is now living with another gay. I tried my best to take it lightly however; I couldn’t help but feel terribly shocked especially so when I learned that the other gay used to be your close friend. This is the reason why I am writing you because I want to tell you that it is not yet the end of the world and that your beloved Danny Boy is not worth taking your life.

I really don’t understand what had been happening to our circle these past few days. Just last week, our gay friends came to me and cried to me their madness at the world. I hope you already know about Mcrae who, behind her being multi Miss Gay titlist, always receive bad words from his overly jealous boyfriend every time she is seen talking to another man. Here was Frederick who begged me to help her because her darling PJ is being courted by a gay professor. Ryan on the other hand, complained because Jay-Ar has not courted her yet after she has spent all her savings for her beauty regiments.

Wouldn’t you asked me about Dimple? He had been confining his self inside his room and has not yet been attending his classes lately because on his frustrations with Karl. Of course I don’t want you to mind Rene and Natty who always flaunt their virginity (as if we care?) because opposite to them are Weng and Roland who always take sex as a staple food. See how colorful our loves are? We’re just sharing our sentiments anyway!

My dear sister, I understand how painful and difficult it is on your part to go through such emotional nightmare. I know very well how much you love him and how much you give your life to him. In fact, I had been a witness to those many times when you had several ulcer attacks because you had to wait for him until midnight without eating anything so you could have dinner together but, only to be told that he could not go home because he was with his friends, enjoying the night over bottles of beer. I could not forget the many Sunday mornings when you were not feeling well but you had got out of bed and bear washing his bundle of vomit-smelling clothes. I knew you bought most of those as your gift for him. And worst, I could still see your tears and feel your worries every time he got sick and you would chose to miss your classes just to take care of him.

However, I don’t want you to regret your love for Danny Boy. Having love him the way is just normal for us gays because that is our nature of loving men. Gays have the high tendencies of falling inlove easily when men make us believe that we are important to them. We are also brave risk-takers for if we decide to love we give our life whole heartedly. Perhaps this is one reason why men take advantage if us because they believe it is our weakness. But, they just don’t know that deep in our hearts is an overwhelming victory as we take the gay pride of providing to everybody that we are normal individuals who have the capacity to love and whose capacity to love transcends all the earth’s boundaries.

Thus, let me tell you that committing suicide is the most stupid thing that you would have ever done in your life. Danny does not deserve you and his now living with another gay does not make you a less person either. It’s his loss not yours. Your love for him was one proof that you can be a great lover, even a better lover than straight men and women. With the experience, you’ll surely become a well adjusted gay individual whose life can be so much better than those who went through exchanging marriage vows and suddenly broke up, better than those who pretend that their families are happy and intact, better than those wives whose husbands secretly hang out with men during their free time, better than those who use the Bible as instrument to get themselves closer to men, and most of all, so much better than those narrow minded preachers who wrongly judge us because of their ignorance to the fact that gays are people who can be happy, loving, and of value of society.

Finally, I want you to know that there is so much more in life that we have to live for. You’re still young and I want you to sail on, continue to love again, and follow your heart’s desires. Just bear in mind that nobody, not even straight males and females, is guaranteed a perfect relationship. And if you’ll get hurt again, just accept it and be grateful with it. Joe D Mango once wrote that we should be thankful and happy, not because we lost love, but because, for once in our lives, that feeling live in our hearts and made us happy.

Good Luck Sister!

With love,

Ate V

This letter was written by my college adviser, Prof. Arthur Pizzaro, for his very good friend who had problems of love that time. It was published in the Special February Edition of our Official College Newsletter “Cassayuran” Mindanao State University – Iligan Institute of Technology in the section “Familiar Faces, Hidden Lives.”

How To Win A TS or Shemale’s Heart

A Transgender or Shemale is commonly define as a “Woman trapped in a Man’s body.” The fact that we are Woman just inside a man’s body, we want to be treated as what is a real woman should be. If you are treating us like a woman then we are going to respond the same way. We want to feel safe with a man who we love and who we wanted to be loved. There is an essence of femininity inside us so we just don’t look merely for sex, but a sex tied up with love. Transsexuals are more feminine than real females. With the new generations of females nowadays, who are independent, assertive, argumentative, and are pain in the ass, we, shemales are more traditional when it comes to love and sex. A guy would love to date TS because we have far better understanding to what is it means to be male than any other real girl will. We know where and what to satisfy a man.

We, TS/TV/Shemale look for a guy who loves and appreciate us. What we look in a guy is also what any woman wants in a guy. So if a guy would want to develop a relationship with TS, it’s just the same way with how you approach a real woman. But we are more special than any other girl. So here are some things a guy needs to know how to treat TS special to win her very heart:

1. Flower Power – Offer her flowers not a dick. If you want her to believe you really got good intentions on her then you should try to make her feel pretty like a flower.

2. Dinner Date – Any girl would love to go on a dinner date and that is what any ts do like too. With a beautiful ambiance, good food, great wine, and nice talk, a ts would really think its one of her most memorable experience.

3. Do not treat her like a freak - Treat her like any other girls you used to date with. Do not make her feel anything that will suspect her about you if you just going on a date with her because of curiosity. And if your interest is really genuine then you should be true to your feelings. Tell her how special she is and treat her nicely.

4. Be a gentleman – Be gentle with her emotions. Do not focus your conversation about TS issues because it happens all the time. Instead, try to talk about her likes and interest in life. TS fully expects her dates to ask her about inappropriate- sex or TS related questions because that is what usually that happens. But this time, do not bring up the subject, most likely, that will surprise her and that will make a big impression.

5. Understand her - Odds are, if a ts is taking hormones, expect mood swings. The TS pre-op may still have a dick, but psychologically she’s a girl.

6. Lastly, respect how a TS regard herself – TS respond as a woman, therefore she regards herself as a woman. She wants to immerse herself into something warmly and clearly feminine, which accounts for the clearly feminine clothing and heels. A man who respect and appreciate her femaleness, accept and love her is in for a huge benefit. He will be on the receiving end of a whole lot of attention, affection, and desires.

Good luck on your search for the right TS for you. Just let her feel all your love and you will get more than what you give in return. And remember this, A TS’s often have a better understanding of what men want, a better grip on how to be female.

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